Category Archives: Death and Commemoration

Controlling The Grave

When our mother died, she had no plot. So she was cremated and placed in the plot with her parents and sister. Six years later, when our father died, my sister and I dug up my mother, under cemetery supervision, … Continue reading

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Raked

Met a friend whose mother had just died. He had supported her for many years. One with several siblings; he is the one who supports. Private funeral. Grave set, by him, alone. Look at his hand; bandaged finger. Said he … Continue reading

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Angel Moment

Have previously written about the Garden of Angels, at Beechwood Cemetery. Visit it regularly, following visit to parents’/grandparents’ grave. Very important to my younger daughter. She knows the names. Particularly one. The place where unexpected dead child rests. No family … Continue reading

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Approaches to Exit

You can’t fight Fate You can run But you can’t run away When it’s meant to be It’s gonna be that way Whatever people do at this particular time, it seems that it is a feeling beyond the immediate. Recently … Continue reading

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Still useful stuff to do

Neil Remington Abramson, commenting on that which is reflected on, with increasing frequency, as years pass (e-mail correspondence reproduced with permission): If I were dead tomorrow, then: 1. I would wake up in a better place; or 2. I would … Continue reading

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Deadhand

In 1978, thinking money to be saved, but forgetting sunk costs or opportunity costs, moved from Dundas and Sherbourne (201 Sherbourne), where the landlord was excellent, in the interest of keeping a low profile. Moved to a lowrise at Bloor … Continue reading

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No Grave Disposition II: Bridge and Ash

I tried to find a posted clip from The Bridges of Madison County film that contained the “ashes scene”, to which Neil Remington Abramson referred, in recently commenting on “No Grave Disposition”, and the attitudes of his parents in relation … Continue reading

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