My ex-wife and I get along much better now, with mutual respect.
Wasn’t that way, for roughly ten years of a sixteen year marriage.
As matters were deferred to collapsing, started working on Parliament Hill, 1995. Met with personnel officer. In terms of benefits, spoke about how it was all falling apart.
She said you can come to some sense of balance, or believe you have come to some sense of balance with the former, and then all it takes is one incident to remind you of why it didn’t continue. It all comes back, in a moment. Trigger of pain.
When I went back to the personnel department with forms signed, she had gone on sick leave.
It all came back.